When you are a parent, you want to give your child every opportunity. You do. But this also means that your interests are secondary, if that. Even if you do limit activities to one sport per season – resign yourself to sitting in the driver’s seat of your car, especially if you have more than one child. We have been unusually lucky with activities falling on the same day but at different times, although it does make for a long day. When they do overlap, a divide and conquer mind-set prevails as we fan out over suburbia.
Happily, they love their activities and it is wonderful to see skills, teamwork and friendships develop. We share in their successes and disappointments and try to make it a family day. Pack a lunch, bring the dog and if possible, drag encourage the siblings to attend each other’s games.
Last night I went to a fundraiser for Web of Benefit which is a nonprofit organization that helps women affected by domestic violence. It was a wonderful presentation and their philosophy is unique. “Web of Benefit operates under a “pay it forward” philosophy, where each woman assisted contributes to the Web of Benefit network by doing three good works, on whatever level she is able, for other women in need.” thus truly extending the web. The founder’s clear statement about women achieving their dreams was impressive.
Go to their website http://www.webofbenefit.org/ or find them on Facebook – Web of Benefit. It was a lovely evening put together by a group of women committed to finding non-profits that are exceptional and focusing their own grassroots fundraising on these organizations. More about them later.
In our house there are two tvs – the big tv is the one in demand – and the faceoff between the Olympics and American Idol resulted in channel switching that made me dizzy. We all are interested in the Olympics and some of us are interested in Idol. Let the games begin!
It is often a challenge finding appropriate movies that we all want to watch. Thankfully we are past the Disney princess movie stage but the Disney Channel still looms large on (some of) our program choices. I can take a little of the snappy repartee but after any substantial amount of time or after a certain hour of the day, I am tweaked when I hear even the theme music. I do happen to like Phineas and Ferb (it is clever) and small doses of Spongebob Squarepants.
I would love to say that I allow no weekday tv but I do allow a bit after homework is finished and musical instruments are practiced. Sometimes I even get the table set or napkins and dish towels folded. Usually not.
Here is a site that helps check out appropriate movies: http://www.kids-in-mind.com/help/praise.htm
Nothing like sitting through an inappropriate movie with your child to make you want to check this site. Think of the movie Valentine’s Day ( Valentine\’s Day) with your teen. Painful.
Before I had children, my birthday was a big deal, well, to me it was (I am all in favor of the celebrating your birthday for a month). Now, on my birthday, I thank my mom for giving birth to me. For children, the birthday is wonderful in terms of the pure joy but it is also makes me crazy, too. There is so much pressure to make it a perfect day and, the anticpation (how many times can you answer the question “How many days until my birthday?”).
The best part of your children’s birthdays aren’t the amazing parties (done more than a few), the expensive gifts (note to husband: still welcome), but sharing their excitement and, sappy as it sounds, truly celebrating them. I have learned more from my children than I would have ever thought possible. They have taught me patience, joy, and unconditional love. They have also taught me to slow down and truly notice things. While I am still a work in progress, I am beyond happy to have them as my fellow travelers and my children.