It is true. I have a problem saying no and it seems pretty pervasive among my friends. This results in over-booking (you know, sure I have to get the kids to school by 8 but I can still get that batch of cookies I promised for the teacher lunch in). When the idea or project is worthwhile, which they all are, it is really hard to say no.
I remember saying yes to my first committee before I even knew what a committee was. My children were very young at the time and I was thrilled (!) to be asked to contribute. It was a great experience and I met some amazing women. All of the other things I have worked on since have been wonderful experiences, too. It isn’t about not wanting to help. It is about making it work for you and your family. Here is my new intent – I will say “I would really like to but am working on quite a bit now, can I think about it and get back to you?” It isn’t a no, it is a delay until you can truly assess what the time commitment entails (If I say this to you, you saw it here first). I am working on the balance that I need to make good on all of my intentions and not over-book (a family tradition).
Pun intended, I did visit the dentist this am (warning: back-to-back health care visits can make you punchy – I usually do not care for puns). I was so besieged by requests for more yummy Shoku Kan (you know who you are) that I went back again to the wonderful Japonaise Bakery. Yes, it was a hardship for me, exposing myself to more delicious baked goods, but that’s the kind of mom I am. I bought tons of the bread (regular, wheat, and the house favorite, heavy cream). The photo does not do the bread justice. It is really amazing.
I also had a chocolate almond cookie, just so I could share the information, not because I really wanted one. It was wonderfully delicious and did not make it home. I think it is a good thing that this favorite is at a distance that discourages daily visits. Of course I have other favorites; Hi-Rise Bread Company in Cambridge, Flour in the South End, Bread and Chocolate and L’Aroma in Newton. In the interest of health (mine), I will not write about all of them in one week.
After a morning of medical appointments – just the annual almost pain-free mammogram and always delightful (no, really – I like him) GYN visit, I purchased treats from the Japonaise Bakery to sustain myself for the long ride home from Brookline. http://www.japonaisebakery.com/
I first read about this bakery years ago in The Boston Globe and thought I had caught a rare Globe editing error. “An doughnut” was a mistake surely the writer meant “a doughnut”? The writer did not. The An doughnut is a red bean paste (azuki) filled doughnut (made seemingly of sunlight and air) and then covered with granulated sugar. Okay, I kind of love this treat. Lest you think that I am eating only pure sugar, I also had the most prettily packaged sandwiches. Choices include egg salad (I am particular, theirs is divine), tuna salad, ham or turkey. The sandwiches are on a soft crustless bread (regular shoku pan) and are substantial enough for lunch. Great looking salads and other pastry items, too. The hands-down favorite is Heavy Cream Shoku Pan which is traditional Japanese white bread made with heavy cream. My youngest calls it the white fluffy bread. All is lovely, both service and food.