It is true. I have a problem saying no and it seems pretty pervasive among my friends. This results in over-booking (you know, sure I have to get the kids to school by 8 but I can still get that batch of cookies I promised for the teacher lunch in). When the idea or project is worthwhile, which they all are, it is really hard to say no.
I remember saying yes to my first committee before I even knew what a committee was. My children were very young at the time and I was thrilled (!) to be asked to contribute. It was a great experience and I met some amazing women. All of the other things I have worked on since have been wonderful experiences, too. It isn’t about not wanting to help. It is about making it work for you and your family. Here is my new intent – I will say “I would really like to but am working on quite a bit now, can I think about it and get back to you?” It isn’t a no, it is a delay until you can truly assess what the time commitment entails (If I say this to you, you saw it here first). I am working on the balance that I need to make good on all of my intentions and not over-book (a family tradition).
Last night I went to a fundraiser for Web of Benefit which is a nonprofit organization that helps women affected by domestic violence. It was a wonderful presentation and their philosophy is unique. “Web of Benefit operates under a “pay it forward” philosophy, where each woman assisted contributes to the Web of Benefit network by doing three good works, on whatever level she is able, for other women in need.” thus truly extending the web. The founder’s clear statement about women achieving their dreams was impressive.
Go to their website http://www.webofbenefit.org/ or find them on Facebook – Web of Benefit. It was a lovely evening put together by a group of women committed to finding non-profits that are exceptional and focusing their own grassroots fundraising on these organizations. More about them later.